I'm Christa Bates, a certified Mind Coach and Emotional Healing Guide. I’ve been where you are. I remember the day when I realized “I’m a crisis manager. I took on this role—and I can’t be this person anymore.”
It wasn’t until I did the work that I truly felt I didn’t need to be that person anymore. That changed everything.
We love people so much, don't we? We think we're helping. We also worry that we're letting everyone down, and the truth is we don't have the capacity to live everyone else lives along with ours. We're not meant to.
I now feel free to love people without needing to manage their pain for them. The beautiful truth is that when we put down that role everyone benefits. It feels like being able to take a full breath again. You, and they, are so worth the effort to experience this kind of freedom!
What if the roles you took on to survive are now keeping you from peace?
You are the one who holds it together.
The strong one.
The helper.
The fixer.
The feeler.
You learned how to survive by staying steady for everyone else.
But now, it feels like your body is asking for relief.
Maybe you're exhausted. Maybe you're over-giving in every relationship. Maybe you've woken up and thought:
"I used to be able to carry all of this. I just can't anymore."
That moment isn't weakness- it's wisdom.
This is your turning point.
You're not broken. You're filling roles that aren't yours.
The roles you've taken on? They made sense when you picked them up. They helped you feel safe. Connected. Even needed or worthy.
But now those roles are costing you: your peace, your voice, your presence.
Healing isn't about restoring your ability to carry everything like you used to.
It's about unlearning the false roles you had to play, restoring the truth of who you already are, and in turn- allowing others to lead in their own lives.
I help high-capacity, self-sacrificing women release the emotional weight of old pain, false beliefs, and survival patterns- so they can feel safe to speak up, connect, and build reciprocal nourishing relationships.
Through trauma-informed, root-cause emotional healing, you can stop over-performing and start living fully.
Your sacrifice doesn't make your love more true.
You don't have to lead from burnout.
You can lead from restoration.
My Approach
I combine Root Cause Therapy, neuroscience-informed tools, and the AC2™ Method (Awareness, Compassion, and Choice) to help you:
Understand why you're stuck in overgiving or resentment
Heal the roots of the roles you had to play
Reconnect to your needs, values, and voice
Build healthy boundaries without guilt
Feel calm, clear, and free
Not sure where to start? Let’s talk. You don’t have to do this alone.
What people are saying:
Christa is amazing. She helped me clear so many limiting beliefs! The way she conducts her sessions is with warmth and care and makes you feel very comfortable to be vulnerable which is essential for progress. Our sessions had a great flow for following up on how I was feeling since the prior session and she reached out with additional resources to help in between sessions.
Amanda
Christa brings calm to a storm, a voice of reason to a complicated situation, and a fresh perspective to life’s challenges. She teaches how to set and live by healthy boundaries while continuing to love and show compassion to others. She makes you feel that you and what you’re experiencing in your life is important, and genuinely matters to her. She provides solution oriented guidance and direction with kindness, and leads by example.
Tiffany
Christa’s sessions are professional. She does an excellent job of assessing the points that need to be cleared. She leads the imaging process clearly, calmness, and thoroughly. She understands the material and is able explain it clearly and what the process is going to be. She sends after session videos to integrate the material from the sessions...Christa has a calm and pleasant personality, which makes it easy to talk to and trust her. She encourages deeper thought and reflection with her questions to discover, what is true about myself. I can see clearly what I need to do next. She is an expert at choosing the core/root phrases and words to use to reveal my potential. She then leads me through techniques to open, release and confirm to me the things needed so that I Move Forward! The peace, release from stress, and the determination after the session has promoted positive change and action toward my goals. Time with Christa can change your life. Thanks, Christa!
Dr. B B
It’s only been a little over a week since my first session. I’m still realizing different benefits and ways that this has helped me and I plan to keep going.
M M
I highly recommend EFT with Christa. She can help you with emotional issues you may have been dealing with for years. In my first session with Christa I became very emotional. It was difficult at first, but Christa made me feel at ease and safe to continue, and I felt immediate relief. By the end of session I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and continued to feel calm the rest of the day. I haven't had one reocurrance of stress around what Christa and I worked on together, and it's been several months since our last session. Sometimes the old thought does come, but instead of making me feel guilt and anxiety, I actually feel light. It's awesome!EFT truly works, and Christa is amazing at what she does.
Donna
While prepping for labor after struggling through two months of bed rest and pregnancy complications I was having anxiety about getting an epidural. I didn’t need one with my first, so it was all building up in my mind. I had a scenario that would play over and over in my mind to the point that I could hear it and feel it so clearly. After one session of tapping, not only did the anxiety go away, but I can’t recall the images, sounds, or feelings that were so clear to me before. I have more peace now about going into this birth experience with a clean slate rather than months of built-up anxieties over a situation I have no experience with. I’m looking forward to seeing what it will actually be like rather than dreading it.
B M
Christa has helped me manage my stress by teaching me coping skills. She always has a solution for things and is a kind, loving, and smart person who always makes sure that you’re known.
Eva
While I was a teenager Christa helped me to navigate the challenges of life and helped me to reframe the way I think about things. She taught me ways to cope with stress and helped me to see the bigger picture. She also helped me identify my personal goals and helped me carve a path to achieve those goals. Most importantly, she helped me to discover my value, how to love myself. Christa has changed my life for the better and the things she has taught me have helped me to better adjust to adulthood and find a way to be successful and happy amidst the challenges of life.
Brittanie
Christa is a marvelous listener. When I am around her I feel heard and understood. I seem to always have “AHA!”💡 moments when talking with her. She has helped me realize my potential in so many ways and I always feel supported by her.
Whitney
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